How can I support memory and planning skills?

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Audience Spotlight: Supporting Struggling Learners with Memory and Organization

If your child finds it hard to remember instructions, keep track of homework, or plan out projects, you are not alone. Many parents of struggling learners notice that schoolwork can quickly become overwhelming when memory and planning skills lag behind. The good news is that these skills can be strengthened—and your encouragement makes a real difference. Everyday routines, gentle reminders, and positive feedback help children build strategies that last a lifetime.

Definitions

Memory skills are the abilities that help your child recall facts, instructions, and steps in a process. Planning skills are part of executive function and involve organizing tasks, setting goals, and figuring out how to complete assignments or responsibilities.

How can I support memory and planning skills elementary school at home?

Supporting memory and planning skills elementary school years is a common concern for families. Forgetting to turn in homework, losing track of library books, or struggling to remember multi-step instructions are all signs that your child may need extra help. Experts in child development note that executive function skills, including memory and organization, are still developing in elementary school and can be nurtured with practice.

Many teachers and parents report that routines and checklists make a big difference for children who struggle with memory and planning. Try these steps to help your child strengthen these skills at home:

• Establish routines: Consistent morning and evening routines create anchors for your child. For example, have a set place for backpacks and homework folders so nothing gets lost.
• Use visual supports: Post a simple daily schedule with pictures or words. This helps your child know what comes next and remember important tasks.
• Break tasks into steps: When your child faces a big assignment, help them write down each step on sticky notes or a whiteboard. Checking off steps builds confidence and organization.
• Encourage self-talk: Teach your child to quietly repeat or talk through directions. This technique reinforces memory and helps with focus.
• Model planning out loud: Show your child how you plan for the week by talking through your own to-do list, grocery shopping, or family schedules.

Why does my child forget instructions? Understanding executive function challenges

Children in elementary school are still developing brain regions that support memory, attention, and planning. If your child is a struggling learner, these skills may take more time to grow. Distractions, anxiety, and even fatigue can affect your child’s ability to remember and organize. It is important to remember that forgetting is not a sign of laziness or lack of effort. Instead, it is a signal that your child may need extra structure and support to succeed.

Some children benefit from multisensory cues—such as repeating information aloud, drawing pictures, or using movement to reinforce learning. Others may need reminders or prompts to begin tasks or stay on track. If your child shows consistent difficulty, consider talking with their teacher about strategies used in the classroom and how you can reinforce them at home. You can also visit our executive function resources for more ideas.

Practical strategies: Building memory & organization for elementary school students

• Homework helpers: Create a homework station with supplies and checklists. Use a calendar or planner to track assignments and deadlines.
• Daily review: Set aside five minutes each day to review what your child learned. Ask questions like, “What was one thing you did in math today?” or “What do you need to bring to school tomorrow?”
• Timers and alarms: Set a timer for short work sessions and breaks. This helps children stay focused and remember to return to their task.
• Memory games: Play simple games like “I went to the store and bought…” or matching card games to practice remembering lists and sequences.
• Celebrate effort: Praise your child for using a new strategy, even if it does not work perfectly the first time. Building these skills takes patience and repetition.

How can I help struggling learners with memory and planning at school?

Many parents worry when they see their child falling behind or feeling frustrated. To help struggling learners with memory, start by communicating with your child’s teacher. Ask about classroom tools or routines that support memory and planning skills elementary school students are expected to develop. Some schools use assignment notebooks, color-coded folders, or peer buddies to help students stay organized.

Share what works at home—such as using checklists or verbal reminders—so your child’s teacher can reinforce similar strategies. Encourage your child to ask for help when needed and remind them that everyone learns differently. If concerns continue, ask about additional supports or interventions that may be available through your school’s student support team.

Grade-by-grade guide: Memory & organization in elementary school

• K-2: Younger children benefit from lots of structure and repetition. Use picture schedules and simple checklists. Remind them often and celebrate small successes.
• 3-5: Older elementary students can take more responsibility. Encourage them to use planners, organize materials, and reflect on what helps them remember best. Practice breaking projects into smaller steps together.

As your child gets older, gradually give them more independence in planning and organizing. Stay involved, but let them try new strategies and learn from mistakes. This builds resilience and a sense of accomplishment.

Common mistakes parents make—and how to avoid them

• Doing too much: While it is tempting to organize everything for your child, stepping back allows them to practice and grow. Offer support, but let them try first.
• Criticizing forgetfulness: Negative comments can increase stress and lower confidence. Instead, focus on solutions and celebrate effort.
• Ignoring small wins: Progress can be slow. Recognize and praise every step your child takes toward better memory and planning.

When should I seek additional help?

If you have tried several strategies and your child still struggles significantly with memory and organization, it may be time to seek extra support. Talk with your child’s teacher or school counselor about your concerns. They can help identify whether your child might benefit from targeted interventions or an evaluation for learning differences. Early support can prevent frustration and help your child thrive.

Additional resources for parents

For more ideas and expert guidance on helping your child develop executive function and organizational skills, visit our organizational skills resource page.

Related Resources

• Making It Stick: Memorable Strategies to Enhance Learning
• Helping Your Child with Organization and Study Skills
• 6 Low-Cost Organization Tools for Kids

Tutoring Support

K12 Tutoring partners with families to provide personalized strategies and caring support for children who need help building memory and planning skills. Our experienced tutors understand the unique needs of struggling learners and offer practical, confidence-boosting guidance. Together, we can help your child grow into a more organized, independent, and successful student.

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Last reviewed: October 2025
This article was prepared by the K12 Tutoring education team, dedicated to helping students succeed with personalized learning support and expert guidance. K12 Tutoring content is reviewed periodically by education specialists to reflect current best practices and family feedback. Have ideas or success stories to share? Email us at [email protected].