Common Mistakes Parents Make Choosing Coaching For High School

Key Takeaways

Audience Spotlight: Neurodivergent Learners in High School

For parents of neurodivergent learners in high school, the path through academic challenges can feel overwhelming. Whether your child has ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, or executive functioning difficulties, choosing the right academic support is critical. Coaching can be an excellent tool, but many parents hit roadblocks when trying to find the right fit. Understanding the common mistakes parents make choosing coaching for high school can help you avoid wasted time, money, and stress.

Understanding the Difference Between Coaching and Tutoring

Before diving into the common pitfalls, it’s essential to clarify the difference between tutoring and coaching. Tutoring often focuses on specific academic content—math, reading, writing—while coaching is more about building executive functioning skills like time management, organization, and self-advocacy.

For neurodivergent learners, coaching can help develop independence and reduce school-related anxiety. But that only happens when the coaching matches your child’s unique strengths and challenges.

Common Mistakes Parents Make Choosing Coaching For High School

Let’s explore the common mistakes parents make choosing coaching for high school and how to avoid them.

1. Mistaking tutoring for coaching

Many parents assume that all academic support is the same. But if your child struggles with focus, motivation, or planning ahead, a subject tutor may not be enough. A coach helps with executive function, which can be especially important for neurodivergent students.

2. Prioritizing credentials over connection

While experience and training matter, the right coach must also connect with your child. A coach who understands neurodivergent learners and builds trust can make a bigger difference than one with the most degrees. Ask how the coach adapts their approach for ADHD, autism, or sensory needs.

3. Ignoring your child’s voice

Coaching works best when students feel ownership. If your child feels forced into a coaching relationship, they may resist and disengage. Involve your teen in the decision process. Ask what kind of support feels helpful to them.

4. Overlooking executive functioning as a focus

Many parents focus on grades but miss the underlying issues. Is your child forgetting assignments? Losing materials? Struggling to start tasks? These are all signs they need help with executive functioning. Look for coaches who specialize in this area. The resources at executive function can help clarify what to look for.

5. Choosing style over substance

It’s easy to be drawn to slick websites or charismatic sales pitches. But what matters most is how the coach builds skills and resilience. Ask about their process, how they measure progress, and how they communicate with parents and teachers.

6. Assuming all coaching is the same

Not all coaching programs are created equal. Some offer structured systems, others are more flexible. Some coaches work on academic planning, others help with emotional regulation or social thinking. Clarify what your child needs most before selecting a coach.

7. Failing to align with school support

If your child has an IEP or 504 Plan, the coach should understand how to complement that support. Coordination between the coach, teachers, and school counselors can reinforce strategies and reduce confusion for your child.

8. Expecting quick results

Parents often hope coaching will lead to immediate improvements. But building executive functioning and confidence takes time. Set realistic goals and talk with the coach about how progress will be tracked.

9. Not checking for neurodiversity experience

Coaches who are not trained to work with neurodivergent learners may not understand your child’s needs. Ask specific questions: How do you support students with ADHD? What strategies do you use for learners who struggle with sensory processing?

10. Skipping the trial period

Most effective coaching relationships start with a trial or introductory session. This lets your child explore the fit and gives you insight into the coach’s approach. Don’t commit to a long-term package without this important step.

How to choose high school coaching that fits your family

Now that you know the common mistakes parents make choosing coaching for high school, how do you choose the right coaching support? Begin by identifying your child’s biggest challenges. Is it time management? Focus? Emotional regulation? Then look for coaches who tailor their methods to those areas. Ask for progress check-ins, and make sure your child feels supported, not pressured.

Many teachers and parents report that coaching becomes more effective when it includes feedback loops between home and school. And experts in child development note that teens build skills best when they feel understood and empowered.

To support your journey, you can explore resources on time management and self-advocacy to better understand what coaching should reinforce.

Definitions

Coaching: A structured, student-centered approach that helps learners build habits like organization, planning, and follow-through.

Executive Functioning: Mental skills that include working memory, flexible thinking, and self-control—essential for planning, focusing, and completing tasks.

Tutoring Support

At K12 Tutoring, we understand that every high schooler learns differently. Our coaches are trained to support neurodivergent learners with patience, structure, and practical strategies. Whether your child is navigating ADHD, autism, or anxiety, our team will partner with your family to build confidence, independence, and long-term success.

Related Resources

• The Difference Between Tutors And Academic Coaches – Swoon Learning
• Tutor vs Executive Functioning Coach: Know the Difference – The MBA Tutors
• Key Qualities of an ADHD Tutor or Coach for Students – Sunbeam Education

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Last reviewed: November 2025
This article was prepared by the K12 Tutoring education team, dedicated to helping students succeed with personalized learning support and expert guidance. K12 Tutoring content is reviewed periodically by education specialists to reflect current best practices and family feedback. Have ideas or success stories to share? Email us at [email protected].