How can I improve memory and planning skills at home?

Key Takeaways

Audience Spotlight: Supporting Struggling Learners at Home

Many parents of struggling learners wonder how to improve memory and planning skills in daily life. If your child forgets homework, misplaces belongings, or has trouble following multi-step directions, you are not alone. These challenges are common in homeschool settings, especially when routines feel less structured than in a traditional classroom. The good news is that with patience and the right strategies, your child can strengthen these important skills at home. Your encouragement and understanding are the foundation for their progress.

Definitions

Memory skills help your child remember instructions, facts, and daily routines. Planning skills involve organizing tasks, breaking down projects, and thinking ahead to complete work on time.

Why Memory and Planning Matter for Homeschool Success

Memory and planning are both part of “executive function,” which is the set of mental skills that help us manage our thoughts, actions, and emotions. Experts in child development note that strong executive function helps students succeed in all types of learning, from reading assignments to science projects. For homeschool families, these skills are especially important because children often have more freedom and responsibility than in a traditional school setting.

Many teachers and parents report that students who struggle with executive function may feel overwhelmed by multi-step tasks or forget important deadlines. When these skills are strengthened, children gain confidence and feel less stressed about schoolwork and daily routines.

How to Improve Memory and Planning Skills: Practical Coaching Tips

When thinking about how to improve memory and planning skills at home, it helps to start with small steps. Here are some concrete strategies to try with your child:

• Build consistent routines. Set regular times for meals, lessons, breaks, and bedtime. Predictable schedules help children know what to expect, reducing anxiety and forgetfulness.
• Use visual supports. Hang up calendars, checklists, or weekly planners in a visible spot. Use color-coding for subjects or tasks. Younger children can benefit from picture schedules.
• Break tasks into steps. When your child faces a big project, walk through the process together. Write down each step, and check them off as you go.
• Encourage self-talk. Teach your child to quietly repeat directions or summarize what they need to do. This helps information “stick” in their working memory.
• Practice “thinking ahead” games. Play games that involve remembering sequences or planning moves, such as “Simon Says,” memory card games, or chess.
• Use gentle reminders. Instead of asking “Did you do your math?” try, “What is the first thing on your schedule after lunch?” This helps your child recall and plan independently.
• Celebrate small wins. Notice and praise your child when they remember to pack their bag or finish a multi-step task. Positive feedback builds motivation.

Executive Function Challenges: What is Normal?

It is normal for children, especially struggling learners, to need extra support with memory and planning at home. Executive function skills develop gradually and may be slower to grow for some children, including those with ADHD or learning differences. Many parents feel frustrated when their child repeatedly forgets assignments or seems “scattered,” but these are common experiences. With understanding and the right coaching, your child can improve over time.

Grade Band and Subtopic: Memory and Organization Strategies for Homeschoolers

Elementary School (K-5)

• Use picture-based schedules and brightly colored checklists.
• Practice putting items in the same spot each day (for example, a homework basket or cubby).
• Play memory games that require repeating sequences or recalling objects.

Middle School (6-8)

• Teach your child to use a simple planner or digital calendar.
• Model how to break big assignments into daily chunks.
• Encourage your child to set reminders on a phone or tablet.

High School (9-12)

• Help your teen create a study timetable for long-term projects or test prep.
• Practice “backwards planning” by starting with the due date and working back to today.
• Encourage self-reflection: “What helped you remember last time? What could you try differently?”

Common Mistakes and How to Avoid Them

• Thinking reminders are “crutches.” In reality, tools like lists and alarms help children become more independent, not less.
• Getting frustrated with forgetfulness. Remember, these skills take time to build. Keep your tone gentle and focus on progress, not perfection.
• Assuming every child should use the same system. Some kids prefer paper planners, while others like digital apps. Try different tools to see what fits your child best.

Parent Questions: What If My Child Still Struggles?

“My child keeps forgetting important steps, even after trying these strategies. What else can I do?”

If your child continues to have difficulty, consider whether underlying factors like anxiety, sleep, or sensory needs may be affecting memory and planning. Sometimes, a child with ADHD or executive function challenges needs extra support and time to grow these skills. Reach out to a trusted tutor or educational therapist for additional guidance. Remember, you are not alone in this journey.

For more ideas and related resources, visit our executive function page for practical tips and family stories.

Tutoring Support

K12 Tutoring understands the unique challenges homeschool families face when building memory and planning skills. Our tutors work with families and students to create personalized routines, offer encouragement, and teach strategies that foster independence. If you would like extra support, we are here to help your child build confidence and succeed at home.

Further Reading

• Helping Elementary Students Improve Their Working Memory
• Organizing Your Schoolwork
• Helping Your Gradeschooler With Homework

Trust & Transparency Statement

Last reviewed: October 2025
This article was prepared by the K12 Tutoring education team, dedicated to helping students succeed with personalized learning support and expert guidance. K12 Tutoring content is reviewed periodically by education specialists to reflect current best practices and family feedback. Have ideas or success stories to share? Email us at [email protected].